Sensitive to the way her clothes felt from a very early age, potty trained before 2 because she didn't like diapers, couldn't wear socks, underwear, tags on clothes, or jeans due to the way they felt. And its shorter for Autistic with intellectual disabilities. The fact that this post calls people [of whatever nature] sl*ts and then shames people who are neurotypical should tell you exactly where this mentality is coming from. I know what Ive talking about with the mortality rate. Going live from your car while crying about how terrible autism is for you, is not the right way to do it. Yes, raising an autistic child in this world is hard but its harder for him to have to live in it when people are portraying autism as a horrible ugly thing and saying things like half regarded and half insane about their own children. So please, stop complaining about your autistic children. A video complaining of your child is a bad way to get the attention the mother obviously needs. He is a blessing and my teacher in life, just like my other children. And sometimes i fucking cry. I dont know. And EVEN IF WE COMPLAIN that does not mean we are not supporting them 24/7 because WE ARE. Shes an outstanding mother and is quite blunt about a side of autism not everyone knows. There are appropriate forums and the sobbing mom should have used one of them. Get off your ass and help, dont hinder and judge. Your child may not sit still, but mild/moderate fidgeting can be enough to help them focus. I have two children with autism. Recognize the difference between a meltdown and a tantrum. Eliminate certain tastes or textures as you go if your child hates the texture of chunky tomato pieces, puree them. As an autistic adult I totally agree with some of the things youre saying. Big deal. I feel sad when we are at the playground and I see other kids who are normal. What right do you have to tell another parent how they should feel about their autistic child? Waaa waaa whine. Complain if you must, but theres a time and place for everything. I know I am not easy, I know I am difficult. Their needs are vastly different. Your child is crying for help and you choose to demonize them. Offer seasonings on the side, so that each person can season the meal to taste. understatement of the year!!!!! Instead say "I don't understand, but I care and I'm glad you're talking to me.". Avoid organizations that aren't run by autistic people, or treat autism as an enemy to be eradicated, such as. Just as your parents supported you. Can you imagine reading this out loud to your child? Not all sunshine and rainbows??? My family couldnt cope with me anymore living at home and I now live in supported accommodation. Let it be. Outside of the internet hardly anyone cares, people in the general public rarely understand, you as the parent are the villain and without resources and constant intervention paired with routine it is Hell. I dont care who i upset with this reply either. It can be hard to shift your thinking but if you do you will see how quickly your life and the wellbeing of your child can change. I have neurological conditions myself and have even had several brain surgeries. Stop shaming someone for sharing Genuine valid emotions and sharing experiences that shes finding hard. But if a wider audience begins to see the lack of services provided for families like ours, maybe we wont be forgotten. Im sorry, maybe your autistic kid is manageable. He is the sweetest boy in the world and I adore him. Special interests can help build confidence and expertise. You should have SOME idea of what autism is and what its not, but it seems like youre making up your own symptoms because thats how YOUR child is. The fact that there are support groups to share experiences and vent is exactly what the author points out. Loving your child is no guarantee that youre not abusing them. YES! May I ask.do you parent a child with special needs? SO this is not that. Its a living hell and all I can do is pray it gets better. At least in my state, special education services for those students who functionally cant understand virtual learning have been ignored completely. If we wouldnt want our spouse talking about us in a certain way, we shouldnt talk about our child that way. Sincerely, Im one of the lucky high-functioning ones & even I was a burden to parent. Cant wait to see your list ten years from now, when reality has set in. And autistic adults can help show you howYou will be so thankful when you do!!!! Be careful about behavior modification therapies. She shouldnt have posted a video about it, but you shouldnt be judging her. You have no idea what it is like to watch your child suffer everyday from self injurious behaviors, uncontrollable stims, anxiety, depression, fear at every new person and sound. Some of the best sources of vitamin B6 include sunflower seeds, pistachio nuts, fish, poultry, pork, beef, prunes, raisins, bananas, avocados, and spinach. What she said was 1) there are appropriate, safe places to vent, 2) those are not a public forum, and 3) dont talk like your child is unlovable. ANY child COSTS his parents a great deal of money [For a middle-income family to raise a child born in 2015 through the age of 17, the cost of rearing a child has hit $233,610, according to the report.] But: A child with autism? "All tips given will greatly help parents to handle autistic children efficiently. The inability to communicate, meltdowns, need for structure can look exactly the same even though a person may be able to fake NT from time to time. So I really have to say it is unbearable most of the time. I sincerely hope you are able to shelter him from that, but I need to tell you that its not guaranteed, and even if it is for your son, its not for every Autistic child. I am being totally sincere not at all sarcastic. See if your child can handle eating gummy vitamins if their diet is very limited. I do not speak for all mothers or autistic individuals, but only for myself. He still loves Elmo. You dont have the relevant experience. There isnt a day that goes by that I dont lay down to go to sleep at night and wish, really really wish, to wake up and realize it was just a bad dream I was having. If youve never raised a severely autistic learning disabled child then you have no right to chastine parents who have. We all have concerns and with our autistic children, there are so many more concerns. I learned more about her. Would you prefer they tell a family-member and have it get back to their kid one day? Has anyone been in this situation and can give me some wisdom and advice or even just a 'you are not alone'? Some children may have low self esteem especially when the parents whom they trust in frustration write negative about their own children. Autistic children need to know that self-harm is not appropriate or allowed, that you will always be there to help them handle it. And its still okay for me to break down and have bad days too. Grab lunch with a friend and vent about life. My sons symptoms are severe. When deseperate and frustrated we need to vent but theres no point posting online. And then I got it. But not too worry. Some autistic children benefit from special diets. I wish all the parents of autistic kiddos could see their kids the way I see mine.I wouldnt change him for the world. She holds a degree in Informatics and has spoken at college events to improve understanding about disabilities. If somehow you are not suffering fears and worries about your child (the one with autism) in the future COMPARED to typical children, then you are both zen and lucky indeed. Fuck you first of all for telling anyone to hold it in and not to speak. His sister? Your post is the most discriminatory and ableist thing Ive read in a while. If you can love and accept your child as he or she is it will show through. EVERYONE. She tells HER story. The most important aspect of this technique is consistency. Theres a video circulating on Facebook with a mother in tears. I wish the term autism wasnt so broad. Many aggressive incidents happen when a child is overwhelmed and panicky, and cannot handle the stress they're under. At the very least, it comes off bad on the parent. Im sure there are good moms with dozens of kids but this writer seems to dont have a human heart. All your statement tells me is that you dont have any clue about the life behind severe autism, so you shouldnt belong to a group for low, or lower, functioning ASD people. They have a dogpile of kids and suddenly they have the moral authority to trash not only parents of typical kids but as proven here, parents of disabled kids. What that mom posted about her kid was abusive. I havent seen this particular video (dont plan to, either), but I see a lot of this stuff on Facebook, etc. I both agree and disagree with this article. Or how we traumatize doctors and nurses because it takes 5 people to restrain her just so she can have a basic check up? And theres nothing shameful about venting it out vrs bottling it up to fester and rot inside you. A LACK of empathy. He has punched holes in the walls of every room in the house. You want to complain so fucking badly about your kid smearing fecal matter to the world? Wow way to shove it down someones throat. Why? I have a mod/severe autistic son and a neuro-typical son. Keep it in mind, ableist NT mommies. They may even turn into a great career someday. 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His own family? NT society blames the child for not keeping NT more often, and the parent suffers scorn for somehow ruining the chance their child could be normal.. My parents are far from perfection, but if they made something like this to me I would publicly shame them back and/or kill myself. We talk about the things the HIGH functioning authkr.doesnt understand-tell me that if I vent about my son fecal smearing, would it be overreacting to vent and talk about it and share? I would suggest that the apparent lack of empathy is simply an autistic person being wired so differently they find it hard to relate to the needs and expectations of a Neurotypical person. Autism can seriously suck. PLEASE stop blogging about Autism. Whoever wrote this article youre an idiot. I try to post very little about my son in a negative light, because I dont want people to view him as a monster or hate him. I know its true for me. (My sons therapy just from age 2 to 6 was not reimbursed by insurance and cost us the equivalent of a house or a college education at Harvard!). Autistic children often like to touch and taste individual ingredients before deciding whether or not to eat them, and these dishes make it difficult for them to do so. Think about it If a couple went to a concert, and the wife got overwhelmed and overstimulated, and she had a panic attack, Then the husband posted a video on Facebook talking about how EMBARASSING his wife was and how hard it made his life, How no one would love her because shes different How frustrating it is that he had to give up on his wife and her future, Many would call him emotionally abusive, and rightfully so. I have never had a student with any kind of special needs which dont take more then their fair share of individual help which does mean other kids do miss out and individual help that they could use too. The very last effing thing any of us needs is someone judging us during what is an emotional and upsetting time. She is offering you life changing insight. Sleep deprivation, extensive injury, seizure conditions, and explosive behaviors just to name a few. However there are real limitations to what can be done in a classroom with students. We deal with tantrums every day, to the degree hes knocked my teeth out of my mouth. She should clarify that this does NOT apply to level 3 autism, the most severe, as the DSM does. Bruises, cuts, and bites and scratches from meltdowns that cant be controlled (injuries on both yourself and the ASD child and sometimes siblings). Which means telling one another our worries, asking for advice, or just being able to talk to someone else whose been where you are. Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, fourth edition. Why does it look like they do it like a breeze. Yes they will mature. Parents are suffering, after learning a whole new way of interacting for their child, and fight after fight to advocate to get their childs needs met. Make it clear that you care about what's bothering them, even if you don't know what it is. Sometimes SIB is related to pain. The moral police dont get to decide how other people deal with difficult emotions. Whats that based on? Autistic people may confuse I and you regularly, for example. How would you feel if a parent of a child with cerebral palsy went on the internet and unloaded all the ills their child was doing to them. :). Nasty woman. Just because our neurotype is different, doesnt mean we dont need and deserve the same respect. It would have been a opinion and that is ok. You are saying that she shames her son, so what are you doing then? If sharing experiences and their feelings online helps them find relief so they can keep moving forward and cope better, then so be it! Point istry to take it one day at a time. Id go on some more but My son decided to smear his poop all over the bathroom wall and floor, so I gotta go clean that up. While I also have chronic pain, I cant fathom his. Im doing my best, but it is hard. She could have recorded the video and showed it to a close group of people who really and truly understand and are able to help. I saw that video too and my first thought was why is she taking him to this bloody Elmo thing anyway.He so obviously didnt want to be there. It sounds like she had a hopeful day planned out for her kid, felt that he was ready, and couldnt wait to see his happiness, then when it went downhill it really sunk in how bad his disability is and she felt that she had failed him. This is the most selfish article Ive ever read. I feel suicidal some days. No ones perfect, this thread sure as heck isnt. What you are saying but you do not realize yourself, is that autism isnt the issue. Remember he cherry picked the severely autistic to go die at the gas chamber and keep the HF autistic alive for research? I know it takes some of us a long time to connect with Actually Autistic community and by then you may have already gone down a path of trying to fix your child, and hating autism. She should go to a therapist to work out her antagonistic feelings towards her kid. I grieve! With the current situation going to the hospital for any other reason is not the best option. But usually they can fend for. You make money off your childs Autism, but have the nerve to try and shame another mom. Anime you wonder if what youre saying is appropriate, replace the word autistic with black or gay and see if it still sounds good. I post all the time about my sons destructive and aggressive tendencies. I love my son but I am not going to lie and pretend that any of this is pleasant. She wants me to wear the same thing day and night. are you kiddding me?? Higher functioning individuals struggle to keep jobs in our lovely ultra individualistic society. Not sure when this was posted because I cant find a date. Clearly you have bought into the sunshine and rainbows bullshit, but those of us out here who keep it real understand that this diagnosis is as good as a death sentence when it comes to your hopes for having a decent life and family dynamic. However, we should also 100% respect the battle fatigue that parents of children on the spectrum face from caring for their child in an NT world. My heart aches for him. She has so much love for her child, you can see it in all her videos. I find it great that the internet creates the possibility for parents of autistic children to support each other. AAC can help a child communicate in words, even if they can't speak. In most instances with your child, it's not truly an emergency and both you and your child will benefit from putting the breaks on, and then following up when your ready with a more supportive and effective response. Autistic people are not capable of empathy. A child with autism can learn to calm themselves by being taught what to do when anxiety strikes. You think parents of NT kids dont publicly complain, post videos, etc? We just saw a grandmother kill her twin autistic boys recently. Im not a big sharer & try not to post things that are too personal, but that sure seems to be the way of the world nowadays. Imagine for a moment that you always wanted a child tobecome a doctor. Feelings that others relate to and thanked her for sharing so they dont all feel alone. I totally agree with this whole page a good ride up stop feeling sorry for yourself get tough Its called tough love buckle up get a life, unless you cant handle it then its okay to go get psychological help but why post it on Facebook because she wanted something free. There are plenty of loving families out there that can treat an autistic child as a human being instead of a broken toy. Everyone is coming from a different perspective. My God are you OK? But ALSO for my son, because HE CAN NOT. Bottom line, there are plenty of ways for you to talk through your big fears and feelings when youre frustrated with autism or your autistic child. Life is hard. So much! Intellectual disability and autism are intrinsically connected, both conditions come from the same pool of autistic genes only that HF autism have dormant intellectual disability genes while severe autism are active. Anything else is cruel to the child and parent. Ripping fabric is an interesting sensation, so is squeezing out toothpaste or shampoo. Off to start a new family? Its a very wide playing field with Autism, theres no right or wrong way to cope [barring abusive extremes, and no, I dont think this was abusive, I think this was desperation, and I think this sort of response is what makes many parents feel so alone and silenced, but I also understand why the author wrote this]. They are doing well with the exception of some uncertainty towards school but Im so glad to better educate myself and listen to autistic voices. How dare you. Everyday is a struggle for my and my husband, our child is very difficult, very behind and despite intensive therapy I already can see my future. Your child may point out certain ingredients as "gross" or "scary." And she cries because if she dies before he does she doesnt believe anyone will go to her childs funeral. They can still communicate, you just arent listening. The same goes for caffeine dont give your child anything that is likely to keep him or her awake. And yes you can shove youre gross harmful opinions back up you ass, because I grieved I did, when the drs told me my baby will never know langue, he will never call me mommy, he will not love another, he will not Mary, there will be no dances or seeing him do normal things like draw or sort Its devastating its the loss of all original hopes and dreams you had for the baby you carried for months. No one here said to bottle it up. Other Sections Tips and Warnings Related Articles References Co-authored by Luna Rose Last Updated: March 29, 2022 References This is our first child, her therapy is not free or covered we live, we are spending over 90K in CAD per year. Your persistence will pay off once the routine feels natural and internalized, your child will feel better. We all know that from the moment of birth when crying means hunger, fear, loneliness. I have an autistic daughter who has stopped eating and drinking. Well, happy judging autism super mom. Everyone has their right to privacy. I want to scream and cry, but these comments make it feel like I cant. And mean. I smell sour grapes. Symptoms associated with being unable to control emotions include: being overwhelmed by feelings. WOW, so many ableist and abusive comments from autism moms who have NO idea what autism actually is. My oldest has her DL and when school thought she couldnt do it I said shell fail like any other child. It helps if the people around them can be a calming influence. Read with caution. Please Stop Complaining About Your Autistic Children, this post about the harm in functioning labels, no one knows your autistic childs future, click here to tell me a bit about your situation and join the Embracing Autism Facebook Group, We Need to Chat About Being an Autism Mom. You went no contact? Our days consist of never getting a full night of non-interrupted sleep, constant screaming, screeching, tantrums, outbursts of physical violence of every kind, changing diapers and unwillingness to eat. Being explicit, and offering a better solution, clearly communicates that the behavior is ineffective. Its not wrong for an autistic child but okay for a neurotypical child. He screams most of the time hes awake. Explain the routine to your child, and use a picture schedule to help them predict events. Do you put your own clothes on before you wander outside in below freezing temperatures? No one elses. He can go to the bathroom on his own and even though he didnt go to mes school he still has the possibility to think of what he wants his life to be. This is a child almost my height who still can't put on his own clothes, brush his own teeth or dry himself after a bath. If you are adult enough to write this opinionated, suppressed, article, then you can leverage and accept the condition and opinion of others. I am a parent of a severely autistic adult and HE IS NOT AND NEVER HAS BEEN A BURDEN and I presume competence (as we all should for anyone with serious communication challenges), it would break his heart to hear me say something like that about him. The hell you watch them go through because theyve been thrown into this world alone in their head, us unable to help. Signed, an autistic. eye contact. Ideas for things we can do to instead of crying out to the world for help. I dont get all you parents who wish your kids were different than how they are. I can't wait to go to work each morning so I don't have to be around her. Sorry as a teacher I have to jump in here. 3. Parents share intimate details about their disabled childs meltdowns, bathroom struggles, medical histories, and more without hesitation. I would not relive it for anything, but Im relieved to say that it has become easier since hes older. For example, if your wife likes spicy spaghetti and your daughter cries when given spice, place the spice shakers on the table instead of mixing spice into the sauce. Walk a mile in someones shoes before you start judging. I do not sugar coat my life and i dont pretended this is a fairy tale. You dont, so just stop. It wasnt that long ago that saying ANYTHING negative about parenting was taboo. There are a few incorrect assumptions I want to point out from this comment and also from other posters in this thread. That is your autism talking. In the ten years since, Ive averaged two hospitalizations a year. Id give anything, painful as it would be, for him to be able to read even this BS and respond himself as to how messed up it is. I do not post about this other than to help others in need. This is not a "different way of seeing the world" that he has, or "a wonderful gift." This is a child about to be 9 years old who can not say "mum" or use a bathroom himself. However, with love and respect, you can increase social skills and help your child find happiness. My hobbies and interests are lost to me. You only know the world of high functioning ASD/Aspergers. No one elses. Id have to be a bitch not to mourn a future at the mercy of strangers. I have to fight against voices like hers everyday, and it just seems like mothers like her breed more and more hate for Autism everyday. The prevalence of adults with autism is on the rise and the reason is really quite simple: more children diagnosed with autism means, in the long run, more adults with autism. Im apart of many autism parents FB groups and Im getting tired of all the parents playing victim to autism and crying on their public pages about how their children are a burden. People dont seem to understand either that we may not see things in the same way, we may live in very different ways, we may not speak with our mouth parts.but we do know. You are the reason your son does those things. If anyone lets on that raising their kids isnt all rainbows and precious moments and is sometimes downright demoralizing, other people automatically assume that the venting parents are terrible, ungrateful and hate their kids. His inability to hold a conversation, to flirt with girls his age, to be a peer rather than a child to girls he has crushes on, to his cousins his age it is heartbreaking. Thank you for writing this. That way, the disappointment wouldnt be so great. At FIVE years old. You dare nudge others while sitting on your throne of high functioning autism. If youre complaining about your autistic children online for the world to see, thats the impression that those people have on autism and autistic people in general. everyone struggles and we all do and say things in the heat of the moment when tired, unhappy or stressed. The author succeeds at protecting a child from an overreacting mother by giving heads up to that Mom where she errored. What about the fathers? Surely we have to bring it back to the child first and foremost.it made me very sad to watch this childs needs clearly not being met. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Your email address will not be published. hmmmm. Ew, neurotypicals. Those are the exceptional few on the spectrum. Knowing your child will need 24/7 care the rest of their life, and knowing you will die first, and who then will love them as much and take as good of care as the deserve. For people posting that High-Functioning Autistics are nothing like my kid- sometimes they are. Most autism mums disgust me. Then get off your throne, stop judging, and write a post/blog entry about severe ASD and the need for finding and help for those individuals and their families. I am really confused by the attacks and accusations on other parents of children with autism in this article and in some of the comments as trying to monetize their child (an abhorrent concept and characterization of one mom trying to help another) especially when I read this: Keep in mind this too. And even though youve said we/you cant or shouldnt. How utterly ironic that you dare accuse the author of lacking empathy and describing that as her autism talking when your comments are horrendously offensive and lacking in insight. Never around? Hang in there. Im not complaining about this; Im broken.BROKEN. I KNOW I was. No full nights sleep. This mother loves her child as any other parent loves theirs. Older autistic children may enjoy setting up their toys in scenes. Changing a 5, 10, 15, 20 year olds diapers because they dont have the ability to be potty trained. Sorry, if your child has an intellectual disability, thats NOT autism. Censorship would be to try to take it down, removed from wherever it is. So I believe in open and honest communication and inclusion vs segregation. You are the problem They need help not shame. I also want whats best for my autistic son. He sleeps with a stuffed animal every night (and I could use one too). When pushed to do something they don't want to do, your child may throw a fit. ASD is called a spectrum for a reason. The legacy of nazy collaborator Hans Asperger? Any mother to says i dont think like that, dont think is being truthful,fear and worry come from Love and caring. Oh and Just go to a Starbucks LOL! I need help as all humans do, not the same kind of help as most humans but there is no shame in that. Princeton University Press, 2008. If your aim is to show people the ugly with the good, firstly Id consider if your child is happy for their lives to be on the internet and then Id make sure to explain in a cut that you were having a though time and that your feelings, while valid, dont represent everything you experience with your child. Not every parent can handle it. For the love. Theres venting which needs to be done in an appropriate place, whether the child is neurotypical, autistic, or has ADHD. Adult Austistics are the greatest resource we have as parents. I feel so sorry for your child(ren). Not be a spokeswoman as a mother to an Autistic child. . As an autistic person and a parent to an autistic child, Im begging you. Don't force your child to spend time with bullies or unkind children. Please stop complaining about your autistic children. Now that Im dealing with the same, I am so glad she put his struggles out there, because she shared tools that greatly helped my son. 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